The lost art of keeping in touch

‘Hey, stay in touch….’ or ‘I’ll be in touch’….

How often have you heard something similar? And how often has it been implemented? Has staying in touch gone out of fashion? Or is it just too much of an effort in today’s busy, hectic times? Do people really mean it when they say they will ‘be in touch’ or is it just something that sounds good? And if they do mean it, why then do few people actually carry out the promise?

The art of building relationships…of staying connected….of forming a meaningful network….has somehow, somewhere been misplaced….it is buried under the burden of simply living through each day with its share of challenges, obstacles and problems. Looming deadlines at work….homework hassles with kids….marital ups and downs….many people find it difficult to even manage to catch up on the news each day, let alone catch up with long-lost friends….

Isn’t it sad?

I’ve been in India for the past six weeks, for the launch and promotion of my debut novel…and have been fortunate to have met some really amazing people during my stay. People who have taught me valuable lessons…people who have taken the meaning of friendship to an entirely new level…people who have helped me, expecting nothing in return other than a delighted smile….people I would be sorry to lose touch with…..people I’m going to make an effort to remain connected with.

We are all busy….we are all caught up in the dramas of living everyday life….we have buses to catch, deadlines to meet, bills to pay…but can’t we all make a tiny effort each day to reach out to the many wonderful people we meet somewhere along the way? One quick sms to say ‘Hey, was thinking of you. Hope you’re well’….one tiny email wishing someone ‘happy new year’….one facebook message to say ‘let’s catch up for coffee’….It will take a mere couple of minutes out of your schedule, but in return you will receive the promise of a beautiful friendship.

Friendships, like plants, need to be nurtured…Left to themselves, they will die…wither away….Rather than looking back some day and being sad about a lost friendship, reach out and connect.

As motivational speaker Zig Ziglar once said: ‘If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.’

Copyright Nim Gholkar 2015. All Rights Reserved.

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