Here’s a question for you: Have you ever taken up a project / followed a dream/ attempted to do something difficult or different…only to be met with people telling you why it can never be done? I’m guessing most of us would have faced people at different points in our lives who have told us we are attempting the impossible. These people are the “naysayers”…those who stand along the sidelines and criticize instead of cheering you on. They are the people who will say “Are you crazy? This will never work. Why are you even bothering with it?”. When we hear such comments, our most natural response is to start doubting ourselves and wondering if it is, indeed, worth all the hassle. We start focusing on a hundred reasons why our project WILL NOT work instead of focusing on the ONE reason why it WILL work. That’s all we really need in the end, isn’t it? Just one good reason why we think our goal can be achieved. And that faith can only come from within.
A very wise author whom I met at the start of my writing journey once told me: ‘What are you afraid of? Failure? Are you afraid people will not want to read what you write? Or worse, that they will ridicule what you write? Are you willing to risk giving up your dream of someday becoming a writer merely because of the fear of failure? How would you know if you are any good at all if you won’t give it a try?’ I found her advice comforting, indeed. But what she went on to say after that was, to me, of far greater value. Here’s what she said: ‘When you first take up something new, you will be terrible at it. You will fumble and stumble and fall. You will make repeated mistakes. You will look at your work and ask yourself if you were crazy to take it up. And that is precisely when you should not give up. Don’t focus on ‘perfection’. Instead focus on ‘practice’. Keep working at whatever you take up and try to get better at it, one tiny step at a time. Don’t listen to the naysayers. They will always be there to tell you why it won’t work. Be your own cheerleader and keep reminding yourself of why it will work.’
I have never forgotten her words. Every time I start doubting any of my goals, however small or insignificant they may be, I remind myself of what she had told me all those years ago.
So, my dear friends, if there is something you have always wanted to do, do yourself a huge favour and simply ‘do it’.
As Mark Twain once said, ” Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
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